The Things We All Carry

Grieving Out Loud: A Conversation with Lynn Lewis | Episode 141

In this heartfelt episode of 'The Things We All Carry,'  Stack interviews grief coach Lynn Lewis, who shares her journey through grief after the tragic loss of her son to suicide. Lynn talks about her mission to help others by sharing her own story and the importance of grieving out loud. They discuss the complexities of grief, the misconceptions around the stages of grief, and the critical need for self-care. Lynn also emphasizes the emotional toll on first responders and how her work aims to break the stigma surrounding mental health and grief. This episode is a reminder that it's okay to talk about our pain and loss and that doing so can be a powerful step toward healing.
 
00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry Podcast
00:45 Host's Personal Reflections and Struggles
01:45 Dealing with Grief and Emotions
03:39 Upcoming Episode Preview
07:19 Guest Introduction: Lynn Lewis
07:34 Lynn's Story: A Mother's Grief
08:11 The Impact of Suicide on Family
08:26 Lynn's Journey to Becoming a Grief Coach
09:25 Encouragement to Share and Heal
10:19 Conversation with Lynn Lewis
16:35 Daniel's Life and Career
24:37 The Day of the Tragedy
30:17 Understanding and Coping with Suicide
41:02 Turning Pain into Purpose
41:14 Sharing the Story: A Path to Healing
42:34 Navigating the Stigma of Suicide
44:02 Understanding Grief and Its Stages
47:11 Acknowledgement vs. Acceptance
48:42 Creating an Action Plan for Grief
49:45 Dealing with Guilt and Moving Forward
53:16 Coping with Anniversaries and Special Dates
57:35 The Importance of Talking About Grief
01:06:58 Resources and Final Thoughts

Navigating Grief and Change: Stack's Reflection on the Journey of Healing

In this episode of The Things We All Carry, Stack shares personal reflections on grief, healing, and change. Nearing the one-year anniversary of his mother's passing, he discusses the importance of family time, dealing with emotional pain, and the unpredictable nature of grief. The episode also explores managing retirement, overcoming feelings of being lost, and seeking community connection. Stack addresses common listener questions on topics like self-care, imposter syndrome, and finding the right therapist. He also introduces a new podcast, 'The Things We All Can,' focused on positive change-makers in the fire service. Listen in for a candid discussion about the challenges and steps toward healing, resilience, and community support.
00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry
00:45 A Personal Reflection on Grief
02:14 Dealing with Loss and Healing
07:10 Navigating Post-Retirement Challenges
11:17 Changing Fire Department Culture
15:29 Finding the Right Therapist
18:30 Addressing Imposter Syndrome
22:05 The Importance of Self-Care
29:09 Upcoming Projects and New Show
32:44 Call for Stories and Conclusion

Navigating Suicide : Mike Part 2

In this comprehensive episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we delve into the profound challenges surrounding trauma and suicide, particularly among first responders and military personnel. The host reflects on personal struggles, including the anniversaries of significant losses in October. Guest Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher and U.S. Army veteran, provides valuable insights into why these issues are so prevalent in high-stress professions. Key topics include the difference between being 'triggered' and 'activated,' the psychological theories of suicidal ideation, and the impact of addiction. The episode highlights the importance of trust, community support, and actionable steps individuals and communities can take to mitigate suicide rates. Join us as we explore these heavy topics and strive to foster better mental health support systems.
 
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:25 Personal Struggles in October
01:07 Reflecting on Past Intros
02:08 Embracing Imperfection and Taking Action
04:20 The Importance of Conversation
05:14 Facing Personal Demons
06:34 The Power of Talking
08:24 Commitment to Self-Improvement
12:39 Episode 139 Introduction
13:04 Understanding Suicide
17:09 Triggered vs. Activated
23:12 Overt and Covert Suicide
32:16 Addiction and Depression
33:26 Interpersonal Theory of Suicide
34:41 Understanding Thwarted Belongingness
35:34 Perceived Burdensomeness in Veterans
36:30 Acquired Capability of Suicide
37:34 The Role of Past Traumas
38:55 Substance Use and Self-Medication
39:49 Mental Health in First Responders
42:33 The Importance of Continued Support
46:41 Community and Personal Responsibility
01:00:44 Changing the Narrative Around Suicide
01:01:29 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Navigating Trauma : Mike - VA Part1

Join 'The Things We All Carry' for an in-depth exploration of the shared and unique traumas experienced by military veterans and first responders. Reflecting personal grief and the emotional impact of service, this episode features insights from Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher. It addresses the mental health challenges of these communities, delving into 'big T, little T' definitions of trauma, the spectrum of responses, and strategies for seeking help. Through poignant personal stories and professional analysis, we uncover the lasting effects of trauma and the importance of trauma-informed care. Tune in for a compelling conversation on coping mechanisms, camaraderie, and the drive to serve despite overwhelming odds.
 
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:23 Conference in Beaver Creek, Ohio
01:19 Personal Reflections on Grief
04:00 Taking Action for Mental Health
07:35 Introducing Today's Guest: Mike
07:45 Mike's Background and Research
13:44 Growing Up in Virginia
15:59 Military and First Responder Experiences
21:34 Joining the Coast Guard
26:17 Army Career and Behavioral Health Initiative
27:21 Clinical Hours and Publications
28:11 Medically Retired from the Army
28:30 Ongoing Work and Connections
29:04 Focus on Trauma and Suicide
31:03 Defining Trauma
32:13 Trauma in Military and First Responder Communities
34:11 Trauma Responses and Their Impact
45:05 Conditioned Responses and Fight or Flight
54:25 Managing Crisis and Calm
57:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Mindfulness in the Line of Duty - Josh - AZ

In this episode, the focus is on the transformative power of mindfulness for first responders. This episode features Josh, a fire captain and founder of Foundation Fortified. The discussion highlights how mindfulness and meditation can be crucial tools for managing trauma, enhancing focus, and improving mental well-being in high-stress professions. Josh shares his mission to make mindfulness accessible through various platforms, addressing its benefits for both professional and personal life, including for families and children of first responders. The conversation also draws parallels between mindfulness and situational awareness training, emphasizing improved decision-making under stress. Listeners are offered insights into the potential of mindfulness to reshape approaches to mental health and the importance of nonfiction literature in understanding human culture.
 
00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry
00:25 Personal Reflections and Family Memories
02:32 Struggles with Grief and Self-Improvement
03:42 Commitment to Therapy and Personal Growth
07:08 Episode 137: Featuring Josh from Foundation Fortified
09:16 Josh's Background and Mindfulness Journey
10:05 Understanding Mindfulness and Meditation
13:01 Mindfulness for First Responders
37:02 Practical Steps to Start Mindfulness
42:27 The Essence of Mindfulness
42:53 Finding Joy in the Present Moment
43:21 Explaining Mindfulness to Others
44:06 The Mind's Role in Dissatisfaction
45:46 Training the Mind Against Unhappiness
46:16 Mindfulness and Suffering
47:05 The Importance of Mindfulness in Daily Life
47:47 Mindfulness as a Trainable Skill
49:06 Mindfulness for First Responders
49:55 Mindfulness Practice and Emotional Waves
50:20 The Future of Mindfulness in the Industry
53:10 Mindfulness Resources and Programs
54:18 Mindfulness for Families and Children
55:17 Daily Mindfulness Practice for First Responders
57:47 The Journey of Creating Mindfulness Content
01:03:30 Mindfulness and Leadership
01:05:34 The Impact of Technology on Attention
01:13:10 Mindfulness in High-Stress Situations
01:16:18 The Benefits of Mindfulness Practice
01:18:20 Experiencing Awe Through Mindfulness
01:20:35 Book Recommendations and Final Thoughts

Finding Peace: Brandon's Journey

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we explore the mental health challenges and recovery journeys of first responders. Featuring a profound conversation with Brandon, a firefighter from Cincinnati, who shares his battle with PTSD and his experience with stellar ganglion block treatment. The episode highlights the importance of therapy, the impact of traumatic calls, peer support, and the fight to break mental health stigmas. Additionally, practical strategies for managing mental health, including therapy, meditation, and supportive family interactions, are discussed, offering valuable insights for coping with job-related stress and fostering personal growth.
 
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:28 Reflecting on Conversations with Former Guests
01:09 Challenges of Returning from Inpatient Treatment
06:30 Personal Struggles and Seeking Help
08:16 Introducing Episode 136: Brandon's Story
11:44 Brandon's Background and Fire Service Journey
12:12 Growing Up in a Firefighting Family
21:51 Dealing with ADHD and Personal Challenges
29:41 Joining the Marine Corps and Facing Setbacks
34:11 Pursuing a Career in the Fire Service
36:29 Navigating Multiple Departments
37:11 Paramedic School and Injury
38:20 Facing Physical Limitations
39:02 Transition to Hospital Work
40:49 Struggles with PTSD
49:55 Therapy and Recovery Journey
53:51 Finding Effective Therapy
55:54 The Impact of ART Therapy
57:50 Stella Ganglion Block Experience
01:08:51 Daily Rituals and Mental Health
01:10:10 Department's Mental Health Approach
01:12:31 Moments of Awe and Reflection
01:13:44 Book Recommendations and Closing

The Battle Within - Episode 135

In this episode, Stack dives deep into the nuanced and often complex experiences of grief, particularly as it relates to first responders. The episode underscores the importance of open discussion and healthy management of grief and trauma. This week's guest, Jamie, the Clinical Director of The Battle Within, shares her personal experiences and insights into trauma-informed care. The Battle Within is an organization dedicated to providing mental and behavioral support to veterans and first responders. Jamie elaborates on their flagship program, the Revenant Journey, a five-day intensive workshop designed to arm participants with essential coping skills and tools. Additional programs such as the Frontline Therapy Network and Dogs for Valor also aim to support individuals dealing with trauma. Tune in to learn more about the impact of grief, the importance of talking about it, and the valuable resources available through The Battle Within.
 
00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry
00:28 Exploring the Theme of Grief
01:49 Personal Stories of Loss
05:04 The Importance of Healing Out Loud
08:44 Introducing Jamie from The Battle Within
14:05 Jamie's Background and Childhood
16:54 Jamie's Professional Journey
19:15 The Impact of Personal Trauma
21:35 Challenges in Systemic Support
27:01 Integrating Professional and Personal Experiences
29:29 Joining the Club: Embracing the Battle Within
29:48 Origins of the Battle Within
31:13 Personal Journey to the Battle Within
34:10 Core Programs of the Battle Within
34:27 The Revenant Journey: A Deep Dive
35:28 Holistic Healing Approaches
40:27 Building Community and Vulnerability
43:35 Measuring Success and Testimonials
47:44 Getting Involved and Additional Programs
54:26 Cost and Logistics
55:05 Moments of Awe and Book Recommendations
01:01:51 Final Thoughts and Farewell

From The Flight Deck To The Firehouse: Brad W - OH

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack interviews Brad, a recently retired firefighter from Ohio with a background in the Navy. Brad shares his journey from working in crash and salvage on a flight deck to becoming a dedicated firefighter. He discusses the significant impact of the opioid epidemic on his career, his struggles with the mental toll of the job, and his current pursuit of a degree in psychology and counseling to help first responders. Tune in for a compelling conversation about trauma, recovery, and the importance of peer support in the firefighting community.
 
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:22 Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone
00:43 Operation Yellow Tape Event
01:56 Engaging with the Community
06:26 Upcoming Appearances and Reflections
07:55 Episode 134 Introduction
08:04 Interview with Brad: Life After Fire Service
12:38 Brad's Background and Early Life
17:07 Military Service and Challenges
26:40 Transition to Firefighting
29:36 Reflecting on a Firefighting Career
29:58 Challenges and Realizations
32:13 Types of Calls and Community Dynamics
33:57 Impact of the Heroin Epidemic
36:00 Personal Struggles and Peer Support
37:10 Transition to Therapy and Retirement
38:27 Ongoing Involvement and Future Plans
40:43 Final Thoughts and Reflections
48:31 Conclusion and Farewell

Triumph Over Adversity: TJ Webb's Journey from Trauma to Triumph

Join us for Episode 133, featuring an inspiring conversation with TJ Webb, a retired police officer, public speaker, and health coach. Webb recounts a horrific shootout in December 2020 that left him with severe injuries, and his subsequent, grueling recovery. During this transformative period, he founded the Fit for Duty Foundation to promote physical fitness among first responders. Webb shares his challenges and triumphs, including his participation in the '30 Days of Murph' challenge, the writing of his book 'Just One More,' and his mission to motivate others through public speaking. Prepare to be moved by a powerful story of resilience, community support, and the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:23 Personal Struggles and Emotional Reflections
05:03 Upcoming Event: Operation Yellow Tape
06:18 Introducing This Week's Guest: T.J. Webb
09:55 T.J. Webb's Background and Career
23:11 The Day That Changed Everything
39:53 Setting a Bold Recovery Goal
40:29 First Steps in Rehab
42:08 Creating a Motivational Sign
45:50 Small Steps to Big Goals
48:58 Achieving the Impossible
55:37 Mental Resilience and Family Support
01:02:09 Launching the Fit for Duty Foundation
01:07:28 Daily Discipline and New Challenges
01:11:46 Final Reflections and Future Plans

Resilience To Leadership with Bruce : Part 2

In this episode of The Things We All Carry we journey through nearly three decades of Bruce's life, starting from his early days as a rookie to his current position of Battalion Chief. Explore his professional growth, coping mechanisms, and personal milestones, including meeting his wife and raising a family. Additionally, gain heartfelt insights into the differences and deep emotional connections between parenting and grandparenting. This episode offers a profound look into the joys, challenges, and legacies that shape our lives, both in our careers and family bonds.
 
00:00 Starting the Firefighting Journey
00:28 Early Challenges and Realizations
01:17 Career Progression and Training
04:22 Becoming a Paramedic
07:24 Personal Life and Family
09:11 A Life-Changing Call
16:36 Coping with Trauma
33:11 Trust and Relationships
37:43 Evolution of Mental Health Support
37:58 Peer Support and Its Challenges
40:04 Adopt a Firehouse Program
41:17 Resiliency Center and Modern Approaches
43:09 Personal Approach to Mental Health
45:58 Financial Security for Firefighters
50:20 Disconnecting from Work
55:21 Building Strong Relationships
57:16 Department-Wide Mental Health Initiatives
01:01:16 Leadership and Availability
01:04:39 Final Thoughts and Reflections