The Things We All Carry

Joey Conscious Movements FLA

Welcome to Episode 107 of "The Things We All Carry." In this insightful episode, we sit down with Joey, a former firefighter paramedic from Florida who spent 12 years serving in Panama City Beach. Joey shares his journey of grappling with PTSD and transitioning out of the fire service about two and a half years ago.This conversation delves into Joey's experiences navigating life beyond the fire service, offering valuable insights into post-service transition and personal growth. We explore his venture into Conscious Movements, a company born from his own healing journey. Through Conscious Movements, Joey aims to instigate a cultural shift within the fire service, addressing the challenges of change in such a deeply ingrained institution.Join us as we uncover the noble mission behind Conscious Movements and Joey's efforts to effect meaningful change in the firefighting community. From discussing the hurdles of cultural transformation to sharing practical insights for personal well-being, this episode offers a rich tapestry of wisdom and reflection.So, sit back, tune in, and glean inspiration from Joey's story. Feel free to reach out with your thoughts, questions, or comments—we're here to engage with you. And remember get out there and do something for yourself! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Travis - KS

Welcome to Episode 106 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Travis, a dedicated firefighter EMT from Johnson County, Kansas, whose journey is as inspiring as it is insightful.Travis shares candidly about his path to the fire service, from his tumultuous teenage years to his commitment to serving his community. With five years as a career firefighter and a previous stint as a volunteer, Travis brings a wealth of experience to the table. But it's his role as a father, husband, and peer support specialist that takes center stage in this episode.As Travis delves into his personal struggles with alcohol and the traumatic moments he's faced in his career, he sheds light on the profound impact of mental health in the firefighting profession. With honesty and vulnerability, Travis reveals how these experiences led him to become a beacon of support for his fellow firefighters.His journey as a peer support specialist for Johnson County and beyond underscores his unwavering commitment to improving mental health outcomes within the fire service. By sharing his story and actively engaging in solutions, Travis exemplifies the spirit of resilience and compassion that defines the firefighting community.This conversation isn't just about Travis—it's a call to action for us all. It's a reminder that by reaching out, speaking up, and lending a helping hand, we can make a difference in the lives of others. So, as you listen to Episode 106, I encourage you to reflect on Travis's message and consider what you can do to support mental health initiatives in your own community.I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did, and I look forward to hearing your feedback. Connect with me on social media, and let's continue the conversation. Remember, we all carry something, but together, we can lighten each other's burdens. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Stephen Sims - A Talk About Neurodiversity

Welcome back to "The Things We All Carry," and brace yourselves for a surprise episode drop on an unexpected day. Today, I deviate from the usual schedule to present a conversation that stands out on its own merit.In this episode, I sit down with Steven Sims, a seasoned firefighter hailing from Houston, Texas. With over a decade of experience in the fire service, Steven brings a unique perspective shaped not only by his professional endeavors but also by his journey as a parent.The crux of our conversation revolves around Steven's role as a father to three children, one of whom has been diagnosed with autism. Steven provides candid insights into navigating the complexities of parenting a child with special needs, debunking myths and shedding light on the realities of the journey.From advocating for his child within the education system to discovering resources and support networks, Steven's experiences offer invaluable lessons for parents facing similar challenges. His perspective underscores the importance of understanding and embracing neurodiversity, fostering a culture of acceptance and inclusivity.As the conversation unfolds, we delve into another facet of Steven's journey—his adult diagnosis of ADHD. With honesty and vulnerability, Steven shares his process of self-discovery and adaptation, highlighting the transformative power of seeking help and making meaningful changes.Recorded shortly after the holiday season, the episode carries a raw authenticity, accentuated by the host's battle with illness. Despite the physical setback, the dialogue brims with warmth and sincerity, inviting listeners to reflect on the interconnectedness of personal and professional spheres.Episode 105 serves as a reminder of the profound impact of our experiences on both home and work life. It underscores the importance of open dialogue and mutual support, fostering a community where individuals can share their triumphs, struggles, and everything in between.So, as you embark on your day, I urge you to tune in, absorb the wisdom shared by Steven Sims, and join the conversation. Because in the end, it's through sharing our stories that we truly connect and uplift one another. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Hospice Nurse Julie - CA

Welcome to Episode 104 of "The Things We All Carry," where we embark on a poignant exploration of hospice care, end-of-life transitions, and the invaluable guidance provided by our guest, Julie McFadden, famously known as Hospice Nurse Julie.In this deeply personal episode, the host reflects on a pivotal moment during his mother's end-of-life journey, where Julie's expertise provided clarity and comfort amidst the emotional turbulence of impending loss. Julie's social media presence, boasting a vast following across platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, serves as a beacon of support for individuals grappling with the complexities of death and dying.With a wealth of experience spanning over 16 years in nursing, including significant stints in the ICU and hospice settings, Julie's insights are not only informed by professional expertise but also steeped in compassion and empathy. Her recent book, "Nothing to Fear," epitomizes her mission to demystify the end-of-life process, offering solace and guidance to those navigating the intricate terrain of caregiving and bereavement.Throughout the episode, Julie shares invaluable advice on recognizing the signs of terminal decline, understanding agonal breathing, and fostering an environment of dignity and comfort for both patients and their loved ones. Her emphasis on empowerment through knowledge resonates deeply, serving as a guiding light for families facing difficult decisions and profound loss.Moreover, the conversation extends beyond the realm of hospice care, delving into the crucial role of first responders in supporting families during moments of crisis. Julie's insights illuminate the importance of compassionate communication and holistic care, bridging the gap between medical professionals and those in need of support.Episode 104 stands as a testament to the power of vulnerability, education, and human connection in navigating life's most profound moments. As listeners embark on this heartfelt journey, they are invited to embrace the wisdom and compassion embodied by Julie McFadden, a beacon of hope in the face of life's greatest challenges. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Mark B - OH

Welcome to Episode 103 of "The Things We All Carry." In this installment, we delve into a personal journey intertwined with friendship, resilience, and the profound impact of life's experiences.The episode opens with a nostalgic reflection on camaraderie as the host recounts cherished memories of concert escapades with a close friend, Mark. Their shared adventures traversing cities, attending shows, and bonding over drinks or dinners exemplify the essence of friendship.Mark emerges as a remarkable individual—a beacon of authenticity in a world often defined by conformity. Having transitioned from Ohio to Virginia and back again, his journey unfolds against the backdrop of a distinguished career as a firefighter-medic spanning over a decade in Prince William County.However, Mark's story is more than a testament to professional dedication; it's a testament to resilience in the face of adversity. From surviving a traumatic childhood incident that left him with severe burns to navigating the complexities of life, Mark's journey is marked by triumphs and tribulations alike.The episode transcends mere dialogue; it's a heartfelt conversation between old friends, characterized by candor and vulnerability. Mark's return to the East Coast serves as a catalyst for reflection, offering profound insights into the transformative power of shared experiences.As Mark contemplates reentering the fire service, his passion for the profession is palpable. Armed with a wealth of experience and a fervent desire to mentor the next generation, he embodies the spirit of service and dedication that defines the firefighting community.Ultimately, Episode 103 encapsulates the essence of "The Things We All Carry"—a poignant reminder that our burdens, triumphs, and connections shape the tapestry of our lives. Through laughter, introspection, and shared experiences, this episode resonates as both informative and entertaining, inviting listeners on a journey of discovery and camaraderie. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Stephen S - TX

Welcome to Episode 102 of "The Things We All Carry." In this installment, the host engages in a captivating conversation with Stephen Sims, a seasoned firefighter with a unique life story. Known as TXsickboy on Instagram or unklesims on Instagram, Stephen his journey through the fire service since 2007.Stephen currently serving as the ladder chauffeur at station 55 in Houston, opens up about a profound experience with a double LODD (Line of Duty Death) in 2009, which significantly impacted him. He candidly describes a period where he, in his own words, "became an a*****e," and how this became a catalyst for his ongoing quest to become a better human, husband, and father.A self-proclaimed "vagabond" from the start, Stephen's life took him from Mississippi to Alabama, Mississippi, Arkansas, and eventually Texas. The episode delves into his diverse background, including a stint in the Navy, highlighting the value of exploring foreign cultures and broadening one's perspective beyond borders.Described by his wife as the "village people of careers," Stephen has worn many hats throughout his life. From his creative pursuits in music, art, writing, and woodworking to embracing a punk rock retirement plan with his wife since the "1900s", Stephen's multifaceted personality makes for a compelling conversation.The episode offers listeners a chance to hear about Stephen's unique take on life in the fire service and his commitment to personal growth. Despite the challenges he faced, Stephen is actively involved in advocating for his children, who are on the autism spectrum. This episode is just the beginning of a two-part series, with Stephen returning in a later episode to discuss ADHD and parenting.Join the host and Stephen Sims for a thought-provoking and insightful conversation that touches on life, resilience, creativity, and the pursuit of a better self. Episode 102 is not just a podcast; it's a glimpse into the diverse and inspiring stories we all carry. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Destiny - On Being Resilient - Returns

Welcome to Episode 101 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're diving into a crucial aspect of our lives—one that many of us carry but often find challenging to explore. I'm thrilled to welcome back Destiny Morris, a licensed marriage and family therapist from California, specializing in the unique challenges faced by first responders, their spouses, and relationships.In her practice, Destiny offers individual sessions and facilitates a group for first responder spouses, delving into the complexities of life in a way that only someone with her expertise can. In a previous episode (Episode 79, aired on August 24th of last year), we explored topics like hypervigilance, the impact on relationships, and how the life of a first responder ripples through various aspects like interpersonal connections, family planning, and communication.In this episode, Destiny and I delve into hypervigilance once more, touching on her spouse group and extending our conversation to include family members of first responders. Additionally, we discuss what one can expect when entering therapy, exploring the dynamics, expectations, and the sometimes-sensitive decision of when and how to step back from therapy.Destiny shares insights into when therapy becomes a valuable ongoing support and when it might transition into a maintenance phase. It's a unique perspective on how therapy evolves and adapts to an individual's needs over time.I want to express my gratitude to each one of you for your continued support. Your feedback, suggestions, and personal stories are invaluable. Please reach out to me on Instagram or via email at stack@thethingsweallcarry.com or mystory@thethingsweallcarry.com.Stay tuned for Destiny Morris in Episode 101, and as always, take a moment for yourself. Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Ben Vernon - CA

Welcome to a milestone episode, folks! This is Episode 100 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we have an incredibly special guest with us, none other than Ben Vernon, a Fire Captain hailing from the heart of San Diego. Ben's journey is nothing short of remarkable; he's devoted nearly two decades to the fire service, experiencing both the world of career firefighting and volunteer work.In this gripping episode, Ben shares his story of transformation – from a young individual unsure of his path to a seasoned public speaker, renowned for an incident that occurred eight years ago. A routine medical call took a shocking turn when Ben found himself in an altercation with a bystander. In a matter of seconds, he and his crew faced a life-threatening attack, leaving Ben and a co-worker stabbed.The narrative unfolds as Ben walks us through the harrowing details of the incident, the aftermath, and the emotional rollercoaster that followed. From being a first responder to becoming a patient himself, Ben takes us on a journey through the physical and emotional recovery process, offering profound insights into resilience and the human spirit.This episode is not just another story; it's a testament to the strength of the human will. Ben's candid reflections on the mistakes made and the subsequent attempt on his life make for a truly fascinating and thought-provoking tale. Despite the challenges, Ben and his crew member survived, and today, he stands before us, a dedicated public speaker traveling the world, advocating for mental health and sharing his inspiring story.As we delve into this gripping narrative, we're reminded of the increasing instances of violence against first responders. Ben's experience serves as a powerful reminder to stay vigilant on every call, as you never know what challenges might arise.So, without further ado, let's dive into Episode 100 with Ben Vernon. Sit back, absorb the resilience, and share your thoughts. And as we close this chapter at 100, get ready for more incredible stories to come in Episode 101 next week. Enjoy the show! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Chris B - VA Leashes of Valor

Episode 99 iwith Chris Bowers…Director of Programs withLeashes of Valor.Leashes of Valor is a non-profit in Fredericksburg, Virginia that trains service dogs for post-9/11 veterans. These highly trained dogs help veterans who have experienced PTSD, Traumatic Brain Injury, or Military Sexual Trauma. Chris joined the show to share his story and give us the background about the organization.You can learn more about their staff, their mission, and how to donate leashesofvalor.org/. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Diane C - MA Reissue

In the first episode of the new year, "The Things We All Carry" revisits an impactful conversation with Diane Cotter, a name that resonates strongly within the firefighting community. The host pays tribute to Diane's unwavering dedication and resilience in the face of adversity, as she fought for awareness and change after her husband's cancer diagnosis linked to firefighting gear.Diane's relentless battle against PFAS-infested gear, a substance with devastating effects on the body, is explored in this reissued episode. The host emphasizes Diane's heroism, acknowledging her triumph over powerful opponents, including political figures and union representatives more interested in personal gain than firefighter well-being.Originally episode 61, this re-release serves as a tribute to Diane's courage and commitment. The host reflects on the past year, expressing gratitude for the audience's support and hinting at exciting developments in the coming year. Taking a break to clear thoughts and recharge, the host encourages listeners to embrace self-reflection and growth in the new year.As the episode concludes, the host teases upcoming shows, promising intriguing content and urging the audience to continue supporting the podcast by sharing, liking, and spreading the word. The episode encapsulates a mix of gratitude, reflection, and anticipation, setting the tone for an engaging year ahead. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com