The Things We All Carry

Patrick

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I'm Back

I'm Back
 
It's been a while, and so much has happened. Buckle up for Season 2. New guests and more of my own story.
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Finally Home: Tim Spradlin on Purpose and Healing

In Episode 143 of The Things We All Carry we delve into the powerful and inspiring story of Tim Spradlin, a veteran, a retired firefighter, and a fire marshal who now runs a successful equine therapy farm in Ohio. Tim shares his multifaceted journey through trauma and recovery, his battles with depression and anxiety, and the transformative power of equine therapy. This episode not only highlights Tim's personal experiences but also explores the profound impact of understanding trauma, seeking help, and the importance of community support. Tune in to hear Tim's invaluable insights and learn how he helps first responders and veterans find peace and recovery.
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:22 Reflecting on Personal Struggles
02:50 The Question of Doing Enough
05:43 Holiday Struggles and Support
07:58 Introducing Tim Spradlin
10:41 Tim's Journey and Equine Therapy
18:47 Military and First Responder Experiences
29:45 Healing and Helping Others
37:37 Understanding Herd Animals: Horses and Humans
38:23 The Healing Power of Vulnerability
38:47 Learning Through Equine-Assisted Activities
41:26 Personal Reflections and Childhood Memories
46:31 The Importance of Being Present
47:33 Combining Therapy and Peer Support
52:47 Daily Practices for Mental Well-being
55:32 The Journey to Inner Peace
01:04:32 The Future of Finally Home Farm
01:10:54 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Healing Through Gratitude - Ashley's Story

Episode 142
In this powerful episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack returns after a hiatus to share his personal battle with depression and self-reflection. He introduces his guest, Ashley Iverson, the widow of Corey Iverson, a firefighter who perished in the Thomas Fire of 2017. Ashley talks about coping with her immense loss, finding gratitude, and her mission to support first responders through the Iverson Foundation for Active Awareness (IFAA). She discusses mental health, the importance of gratitude, self-care, and how she continues to carry forward and make a difference in the lives of others.
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:25 Personal Struggles and Introspection
02:03 Understanding Depression
04:17 The Journey to Self-Forgiveness
13:43 Introducing Episode 142
16:42 Interview with Ashley Iverson
18:58 Ashley's Background and Early Life
32:39 Meeting Corey Iverson
34:42 A Love Story Begins
36:13 The Proposal and Marriage
36:33 The Thomas Fire Tragedy
37:18 Coping with Loss
38:23 Mental Health Awareness
53:13 The Iverson Foundation
01:07:43 Elements of Healing
01:15:20 Moving Forward
01:19:59 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Grieving Out Loud: A Conversation with Lynn Lewis | Episode 141

In this heartfelt episode of 'The Things We All Carry,'  Stack interviews grief coach Lynn Lewis, who shares her journey through grief after the tragic loss of her son to suicide. Lynn talks about her mission to help others by sharing her own story and the importance of grieving out loud. They discuss the complexities of grief, the misconceptions around the stages of grief, and the critical need for self-care. Lynn also emphasizes the emotional toll on first responders and how her work aims to break the stigma surrounding mental health and grief. This episode is a reminder that it's okay to talk about our pain and loss and that doing so can be a powerful step toward healing.
 
00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry Podcast
00:45 Host's Personal Reflections and Struggles
01:45 Dealing with Grief and Emotions
03:39 Upcoming Episode Preview
07:19 Guest Introduction: Lynn Lewis
07:34 Lynn's Story: A Mother's Grief
08:11 The Impact of Suicide on Family
08:26 Lynn's Journey to Becoming a Grief Coach
09:25 Encouragement to Share and Heal
10:19 Conversation with Lynn Lewis
16:35 Daniel's Life and Career
24:37 The Day of the Tragedy
30:17 Understanding and Coping with Suicide
41:02 Turning Pain into Purpose
41:14 Sharing the Story: A Path to Healing
42:34 Navigating the Stigma of Suicide
44:02 Understanding Grief and Its Stages
47:11 Acknowledgement vs. Acceptance
48:42 Creating an Action Plan for Grief
49:45 Dealing with Guilt and Moving Forward
53:16 Coping with Anniversaries and Special Dates
57:35 The Importance of Talking About Grief
01:06:58 Resources and Final Thoughts

Navigating Grief and Change: Stack's Reflection on the Journey of Healing

In this episode of The Things We All Carry, Stack shares personal reflections on grief, healing, and change. Nearing the one-year anniversary of his mother's passing, he discusses the importance of family time, dealing with emotional pain, and the unpredictable nature of grief. The episode also explores managing retirement, overcoming feelings of being lost, and seeking community connection. Stack addresses common listener questions on topics like self-care, imposter syndrome, and finding the right therapist. He also introduces a new podcast, 'The Things We All Can,' focused on positive change-makers in the fire service. Listen in for a candid discussion about the challenges and steps toward healing, resilience, and community support.
00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry
00:45 A Personal Reflection on Grief
02:14 Dealing with Loss and Healing
07:10 Navigating Post-Retirement Challenges
11:17 Changing Fire Department Culture
15:29 Finding the Right Therapist
18:30 Addressing Imposter Syndrome
22:05 The Importance of Self-Care
29:09 Upcoming Projects and New Show
32:44 Call for Stories and Conclusion

Navigating Suicide : Mike Part 2

In this comprehensive episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we delve into the profound challenges surrounding trauma and suicide, particularly among first responders and military personnel. The host reflects on personal struggles, including the anniversaries of significant losses in October. Guest Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher and U.S. Army veteran, provides valuable insights into why these issues are so prevalent in high-stress professions. Key topics include the difference between being 'triggered' and 'activated,' the psychological theories of suicidal ideation, and the impact of addiction. The episode highlights the importance of trust, community support, and actionable steps individuals and communities can take to mitigate suicide rates. Join us as we explore these heavy topics and strive to foster better mental health support systems.
 
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:25 Personal Struggles in October
01:07 Reflecting on Past Intros
02:08 Embracing Imperfection and Taking Action
04:20 The Importance of Conversation
05:14 Facing Personal Demons
06:34 The Power of Talking
08:24 Commitment to Self-Improvement
12:39 Episode 139 Introduction
13:04 Understanding Suicide
17:09 Triggered vs. Activated
23:12 Overt and Covert Suicide
32:16 Addiction and Depression
33:26 Interpersonal Theory of Suicide
34:41 Understanding Thwarted Belongingness
35:34 Perceived Burdensomeness in Veterans
36:30 Acquired Capability of Suicide
37:34 The Role of Past Traumas
38:55 Substance Use and Self-Medication
39:49 Mental Health in First Responders
42:33 The Importance of Continued Support
46:41 Community and Personal Responsibility
01:00:44 Changing the Narrative Around Suicide
01:01:29 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Navigating Trauma : Mike - VA Part1

Join 'The Things We All Carry' for an in-depth exploration of the shared and unique traumas experienced by military veterans and first responders. Reflecting personal grief and the emotional impact of service, this episode features insights from Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher. It addresses the mental health challenges of these communities, delving into 'big T, little T' definitions of trauma, the spectrum of responses, and strategies for seeking help. Through poignant personal stories and professional analysis, we uncover the lasting effects of trauma and the importance of trauma-informed care. Tune in for a compelling conversation on coping mechanisms, camaraderie, and the drive to serve despite overwhelming odds.
 
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:23 Conference in Beaver Creek, Ohio
01:19 Personal Reflections on Grief
04:00 Taking Action for Mental Health
07:35 Introducing Today's Guest: Mike
07:45 Mike's Background and Research
13:44 Growing Up in Virginia
15:59 Military and First Responder Experiences
21:34 Joining the Coast Guard
26:17 Army Career and Behavioral Health Initiative
27:21 Clinical Hours and Publications
28:11 Medically Retired from the Army
28:30 Ongoing Work and Connections
29:04 Focus on Trauma and Suicide
31:03 Defining Trauma
32:13 Trauma in Military and First Responder Communities
34:11 Trauma Responses and Their Impact
45:05 Conditioned Responses and Fight or Flight
54:25 Managing Crisis and Calm
57:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts